Brock Turner’s mugshot from the night of his arrest in January 2015. (Stanford University Police) |
It made me wonder how many rape victims wish they had the will to put into words the unbelievable pain and shame she so eloquently and tragically described.
The justice system failed in this case, no one in his or her right mind would disagree. The judge that give this disgraceful 6-month jail sentence should be removed from the bench permanently. I'm glad so many people have called for his removal. He should serve some time in jail too for being such an incompetent and insensitive moron.
Part of the reason I became a Police Officer was because I wanted to serve and protect people. Call me old fashioned but I believe our country is a country of laws not of men. When laws are broken and a serious crime, such as a felony rape or any serious crime for that matter, is perpetrated on a helpless victim there must be justice and consequences. I've believed this all of my life; it didn't just start when I put on a badge and gun.
One of the
reasons my personality was molded into what it has become was because I was a victim
of severe bullying as a young child and was also a child of an alcoholic father.
At an early age I had low self-esteem and felt powerless to control what was
happening in school or at home. I learned early in life to have an intense
hatred for bullies.
My curse was I had to wear thick glasses from the time I was 3 years old. I remember walking home from the first day of school as a 1st grader when for no reason other than being different looking I was chased down, tripped and beaten by the biggest boy in my class. When he tripped me my glasses fell off of my face and as I went to the ground I fell on top of them breaking them in half. Thankfully no one else was around to see the indignity, shame and the embarrassment I felt in that moment.
My curse was I had to wear thick glasses from the time I was 3 years old. I remember walking home from the first day of school as a 1st grader when for no reason other than being different looking I was chased down, tripped and beaten by the biggest boy in my class. When he tripped me my glasses fell off of my face and as I went to the ground I fell on top of them breaking them in half. Thankfully no one else was around to see the indignity, shame and the embarrassment I felt in that moment.
From then on
my childhood innocence was gone and I become very self-conscious about my
glasses. A lot of the kids in school give me funny looks when they laid eyes on
me, teased me and called me names. It seemed like every other day in school I
was in a fight with some kid, mainly because I was just “weird” looking.
It wasn’t
until I was sophomore in high school when things changed. I got into a fight one day in the school
swimming pool when one of the biggest boys in the class came up behind me and
dunked me in deep water. I went into a blind rage and immediately punched him in
the face maybe 10 times before he realized what was happening. It took 4 guys
to get me off him. After that I no longer heard any more comments about my
glasses, at least to my face anyway and the bulling and the fighting stopped in
school.
The fight
didn’t stop my me from feeling different about myself because every morning when
I got up I still had to put on my thick glasses to see. It took years for me to
finally understand that my glasses didn’t define me nor was I weird or ugly for
wearing them.
What that
fight did do for me was give me a sense of empowerment in my life when I didn’t
think I had any. As a young adult I started to believe that I was the captain
of my own ship and I didn’t have to take crap about what I looked like from
anyone nor when I knew I was right about something.
Today I
wouldn’t change a single thing about my childhood because it’s helped me to
become the tough and sensitive man that I’ve become. It drove me to become an
over achiever at work and at play. At the same time, it gave me an overwhelming
need to control too many things that are beyond my control and that’s been one
of the personality defects I’ve had to work to change.
The White
Horse mentality and getting into fights to correct what my ego considers wrongs
has consumed me at times. I feel a strong personal desire to stand up to
bullies, support the underdog or win a political debate when I know I’m on the
right side. I’ve had to learn that sometimes being right doesn’t justify dying
on a hill for it.
But here in
this particular instance this is a hill worth dying on. This is unacceptable
behavior and the crime should not be excused or apologized away because he was
drunk, too young to know any better, came from a good family or went to a prestigious
school like Stanford. It doesn’t matter that he had no criminal record prior to
the rape, he deserved the harshest punishment available under the law.
His Father
made this statement aloud in court. “His life will never be the one that he
dreamed about and worked so hard to achieve. That is a steep price to pay for
20 minutes of action out of his 20 plus years of life.” This is one of the most contemptable
statements I’ve ever heard after a felony rape conviction. What about her life, and the price she paid?
No matter
where she goes or what she does the rest of her life this violation with haunt
her. I send her and her family my
prayers and I hope she’ll be able to find the coping skills to have a happy
life.
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